COVID-19 and Your Wedding
COVID-19 AND YOUR WEDDING A guide for you on your wedding during COVID-19
To all the brides and grooms, I see you, I hear you, and I feel for you. Your wedding is supposed to be one of the best days of your life. My heart breaks for you during this time. Instead of being able to party with friends and family, celebrate with the love of your life, and create a day to remember, you are worried about if your wedding will still be happening as planned. As another wedding pro said, “There is a time to cry and a time to laugh, a time to grieve and a time to dance. If right now you need to grieve, you have every right to and we are grieving with you. There will come a day that it will be time to dance, and we cannot wait to dance with you too.” I am here to cry with you, laugh with you, and plan with you. I have put together this COVID-19 survival guide to assist you in the different things coming your way during this time of chaos. I hope you use this guide to help reassure you that there are options on how to handle everything. The most important thing right now is that you and your loved ones stay safe and healthy. I’m a wedding expert, not a medical expert. If you are in need of medical expertise, please reach out to your doctors, the World Health Organization, or The Center for Disease Control and Prevention. Jesi
ABOVE ALL ELSE, PROTECT YOURSELF
Some of you have already postponed your wedding and some of you are now starting to consider if you should. There are a couple of different things to consider when postponing your wedding. You will first need to find a date that all of your vendors are available, if a vendor is not available for your new date you may lose your retainer fee and are now back to square one trying to find the perfect vendor for your special day. When rescheduling for 2020, availability may be hard to come by. If you have a Saturday wedding at a very sought after venue, you may not be able to book that same venue on a Saturday in 2020. This doesn’t just apply to venues but also to all of your other vendors. Steps for rescheduling: 1. Call your planner. They are extremely helpful. 2. Contact your venue for available dates. 3. Talk with family and bridal party for availability. 4. Contact your “major vendors” for their availability. Your “major vendors” include planner, photographer, videographer, floral designer, hair and makeup artist, baker, and caterer. 5. Get updated contracts/agreements from all vendors. 6. Contact your “minor vendors” for their availability. Your “minor vendors” include bartending, rentals, DJ (from some of you, your DJ is a “major vendor” in which you will contact them in the first group), officiant, transportation, photobooth, yard games, etc. 7. Get updated contracts/agreements from all vendors. 8. Hire any additional vendors you may need and sign new contracts/update existing contracts with original vendors. If a vendor is not available on your new date, request a cancellation contract. 9. Alert guests of date change. 10. Review legal procedures for getting married in your state. 11. If you have insurance for your wedding, notify your policy holder of the change. 12. Take a deep breathe and remember that at the end of the day, you’re still getting to marry your best friend.
CANCELING YOUR WEDDING
As long as you don’t completely cancel your wedding, most vendors are extremely accommodating. If you cancel your wedding and services, you will most likely lose your retainers. We are all in a rough time right now but your services keep us in business. The money that we make from weddings helps pay bills and provide for our families. As small business owners, we rely on you and appreciate you. If you are considering canceling your wedding, contact your planner immediately to discuss the pros and cons.
THE WEDDING MUST GO ON
Let’s talk elopements and wedding day alternatives. Some of us choose our wedding date because the date itself is a significant to day to you and your best friend. It may be your 5th dating anniversary, the wedding date that your grandparents or parents got married, or maybe you are just ready to be legally married. If you are dead set on keeping your wedding date then why not elope? Elopements or digital weddings are a great option! With the “Stay at Home” order in place right now, it makes an elopement slightly challenging. Courthouses are closed not allowing you to obtain your marriage licence, florists are unable to receive flower shipments, photographers are considered a “non-essential” business, hair and makeup artists must stay 6 feet away making it difficult to apply makeup, and you must have 10 or less people in attendance. If an elopement is what is in your heart here are some alternatives. Buy your flowers from Market Street, Kroger, Target, or any other grocery store that is currently open. Ask a friend or family member to take photos, it will not be the same as a professional photographer but you will get those professional photos when you have your big white wedding. Apply your own makeup and do something simple with your hair. Finally, if you are wanting more than 10 people present set it up as a Zoom call or through Facebook Live. Another option is to talk to your DJ about throwing a virtual party and join your Zoom call for an epic dance party after you are officially married! As you can see, there are several options to make your elopement just as special. An elopement does not mean that you don’t get your big, white wedding, it just means that you get to be legally married sooner. Some pros of eloping are: - Everything is about you and your fiancé. You don’t have to worry about anyone else’s preferences. - You get to keep your original wedding date. - You get to have an intimate wedding with the people you care about the most. If your are wanting to elope on your original wedding date contact your planner/coordinator as soon as possible to assist in figuring out the details.
THINGS TO DO IN YOUR FREE TIME
We currently have a lot of free time on our hands since we aren’t allowed to go and do anything. So let’s use this time to support one another, work on our mental health, exercise, and learn something new. Supporting one another is crucial during this time. Several small business owners are closing their doors for good during this time, animal shelters are busting at the seems needing foster homes, and friends and family are going stir crazy. Let’s support those small businesses by leaving reviews for them (restaurants, wedding professionals, local breweries, boutiques, etc.) and supporting them where we can. Go out to your local restaurants and coffee shops and order food and drinks to go. Foster cats and dogs from local animal shelters or rescue organizations. Skype, FaceTime, Google Hangout, etc with friends and family, send them a card, check in on their sanity. Now more than ever we need to work on our mental health. Practice self-care basics such as good sleep, eat regularly and healthy, stay hydrated, meditate, journal, pray, practice yoga, and take breaks from the craziness of life to confirm that you are taking care of you. While the gyms are all closed it is hard for some of us to workout. For others of us, it is hard to find the motivation to work out. A couple of workouts that you can do from home is yoga, body weight fitness, runs in the neighborhood, etc. Here are a couple of resources for at home fitness classes: - CorePower Yoga - Creative Live - Down Dog Why not use this time to learn something new? Check online at any of your local museums for virtual tours or take Ivy League Courses. Watch YouTube videos and learn how to create macrame, learn calligraphy, learn to make candles, etc. Another great source is BRIT + CO for online classes. Finally, you can use this time to continue planning your wedding. Create organized Pinterest boards. If you are DIYing any of your wedding decor now is a great time to start. If you are wanting fake flowers check out Sola Wood Flowers and dye them the colors that you are wanting and begin creating.
This is a very difficult time that is full of unknowns. If you have any questions, need to cry or talk through things, or just want to chat please reach out to me at any time. Call or text me at 972.795.1890 or email me at email@example.com *all photos by the AMAZING Wilderlove Co. Photogrpahy